17 Mar Defining Focus: Can You Do This With Your Mind?
Defining focus is simple. The image above defines it: if you can do this with your mind, you’ve already got the very definition of focus. Picking up the needle and putting it where you want it on the record defines focus perfectly. If you can’t do this with your mind, keep reading.
These Three Actions Define Focusing
There is a simple sequence of action that focused people take over and over. It is natural to us to do so. They are
- Notice where our mind is focused.
- Notice if that is where we want it to be focused.
- Move our focus where we want it to be.
Poof! That’s it. Focus is the way you make the changes you want in your life.
Every change we make in our lives is a result of focusing on that change.
Focus is not an end in itself. Focus by itself will do nothing to change your life. But any change you seek is made possible by focus.
Anything life-changing is made possible by focus.
Once you can focus, you can accomplish what you want to.
Why is Focus Critical?
If you can’t focus, you can’t:
- keep your attention on the change you want
- keep your commitments with yourself to stay on track with your change
- keep dates with yourself to take the incremental steps you know you need to take to make the change
- even set aside the time to “chunk up” the steps to take in the first place.
There is Nothing Wrong with You
It’s easy to feel there is something wrong with you. Not so!
When you can’t focus, everything feels hopeless. Enormous. Overwhelming. So you give up.
This happens ridiculously often to some wonderful people I know, love, and don’t know yet.
I say no! There is nothing wrong with you!
This problem is societal, cultural. How many times have you given away your focus without even noticing it?
There are so many reasons we do this. So many forces want our attention, and they have such clever ways to get it PLUS we don’t learn (ever) to protect it.
When we protect our focus we may feel:
- [fill in the blank].
Has it ever even occurred to you to protect your focus?
If not, again, there is nothing wrong with you. You just never realized that focus is one of the most precious resources you possess. So you gave it away, over and over and over, to those who want it because they do realize how precious it is. They want it so they can make you do the things they focus you on: buy this and that, dress like this, believe like that, think about this unimportant or nonsensical stuff, make this the center of your attention instead of what actually really matters to you.
You just need to realize what they already know. Again, focus is not the be-all, end-all. It’s not the endpoint. It’s the beginning of living life on your own terms and using your time and energy the way you choose to.
There is no need for us to feel powerless in this big world of ours! We are plenty big enough to focus and get what we want.
We are enough but our focus may not be enough. Yet.
We just have to build it.
Build Your Focus
You can build your focus. Not with apps or Focusmate, although that is fine, too. I mean you can develop your natural ability to focus. I have superb focus; I was born with good focus but I have developed the best focus of anyone I know. Many people would agree that I am the most focused person they know. Every one of my Testimonials is an attestation to my ability to zero in on the person I’m serving–what they are saying, and what they are not even saying. Yet.
Here is one way I propose you build your focus:
Besides the advice in this post and the posts linked above, I’m offering a one-time, live course where you can learn to focus like a laser and protect your focus. The cost is $40. The course date is Thursday, March 30 at 7pm Eastern. The course ends that evening at 8:30, and lasts 90 minutes. You won’t just learn by listening in this course; you’ll learn by doing. This anchors the practices I will teach you in your bodymind, which is a much better guarantee you will remember and most importantly use them.
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