11 Jul Follow Your Own Star: Humble? Or Arrogant?
Follow Your Own Star
I teach a way you can tune into your calling easily and consistently. The way I teach it, it guides you easily and consistently, step by step. It doesn’t demand sacrifice. It develops you as you develop it.
There’s no drama to it. And folks who believe you must sacrifice for your calling don’t know what to do without drama.
There’s also no martyrdom in it. I don’t care if your calling helps anyone else. Other people have their own calling. You have yours. It wasn’t given to you to help other people. It was given to you to help you. When you follow your own inner light, you light up the path for others to do so. When you do what you feel called to do for yourself, you model for others.
And you stop being resentful. You stop comparing yourself. And stop looking outside yourself for meaning and value.
You even stop looking outside yourself for instruction, wisdom, and guidance—gradually. Gradually, you develop a self-trust that is unshakeable. Sure, you need new information and you research it. You are drawn to those who are wise like you and you befriend them. You may need to take a class, get a degree, seek out professional advice. But you do so on your own authority. You are sovereign. Your authority is sacrosanct. Your plan is the one that counts.
Is This Humble? Or Arrogant?
I am interested in my approach to calling being humble.
Some may find it arrogant: tune into it/yourself; don’t follow what anyone else says about it; don’t worry if others like it; don’t try to be useful to others first and foremost; don’t sacrifice; don’t give up anything you’re currently doing that’s important to you.
There’s. No. Need.
“You must have a plan. If you don’t have a plan, you will become part of someone else’s plan.” This is a truth that is hard-won and lived. If you know it, you don’t need convincing; you’ve experienced what happens when you didn’t have a plan and got wrapped (or worse) into someone else’s. What a waste.
What is obvious to me is that this is the humble path. This is calling’s humility, not arrogance. We aren’t telling anyone else what to do or saying we never need advice or teaching or saying you can’t help others or shouldn’t help others. We are saying: stop lying to yourself about putting others first. You know you are the most important person in your Universe. Without you, there is no Universe! There ARE no others to help without you firmly at the center of your own Universe. Your world as you experience it revolves around you. The smarter, wise, happier, at peace you are, the greater help you can be. Yes, this is the “put your own mask on first” we hear so much about because if you don’t, you die. And if you don’t center yourself firmly in your calling and your world, you also die—inside.
Following My Own Star: Your Calling
My approach to calling is in fact humble. It simply says you know. My approach starts with you know your own calling and it is for you. You can be trusted. I trust you. You have a calling, and it is worth following your calling because it is yours and develops you, not because it helps anyone else.
Helping others should be a priority. But you must listen to your calling before you know if helping others is actually your calling. Your calling could be something completely different from what you were told it was. How satisfying is that? (Hint: It’s not.) Help others and follow your calling. Free it up to talk to you freely without imposing any limits or outside “wisdom” on it. It not only will guide you each and every day, each step of the way manageable for you, it will keep you and your life evergreen, ever fresh, ever new. Each day will become a discovery for you as it is for me. There is nothing like my calling. And that’s what I want you to be able to say, for yourself, about yourself! In all humility and reciprocity. Not arrogant, but sharingly. Help others to follow their calling. Don’t tell them what it is, or what it’s for, or what they should do. Let them learn to tune in the way you did and discover. What is arrogant about that? It’s the humblest thing we can do to say: I don’t know. You do. Listen to yourself, not to me.
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